Does the mis-estimation of self lead to the mis-estimation that comes from others? Is it merely your own inability to be sure-footed that invites someone to test your stumbling?
I sometimes feel like I telegraph my weaknesses, and if that doesn’t let someone know how vulnerable I am I go ahead and tell them outright. There have been times where it has seemed to me to be a virtue to be able to confess to feelings, and to let people know that you are not impenetrable, but it often really does depend on the company into which you are releasing the news.
These things have periods where they are in vogue, and then when they fall out of acceptance, but sometimes, having unlocked yourself and thrown away the key, it is harder to once again cage the heart.